Either people are not able to get in touch with how they feel or they are unable to find the words to describe their feelings.
When we ask these questions in our RULER trainings, we often hear that this is not an easy set of questions to answer. This time, as I ask you this question, I’d like you to pause-to stop what you’re doing, and ask yourself: In this precise moment, what exactly am I feeling? How pleasant or unpleasant do I feel? How much energy do I have? What’s the best word to describe how I feel right now? But for many, it can be difficult, depending on how honest we intend to be when we answer and how aware we are of our feelings. How are you feeling? As described in my book, Permission to Feel, given that it’s something we’re asked so often, this question should be easy to answer.
